The afternoon Moon. Photo by Kid Robson |
Hugh was a nice big fella - tall, thin, quiet and unassuming. I'd met him back in 1983 when I was attending night-classes at my old secondary school (now demolished), and he was one of those people with whom it was immediately easy to get along. I'd left school at 16 before sitting any Highers, and now I was seeking to redress the oversight by studying for Higher English. (Passed it.)
However, it wasn't until after we'd sat our exams and night-school was over that Hugh and I became friends rather than just mere acquaintances. Not the sort of friends who palled about regularly, or who made arrangements to meet up or anything like that. It was just a case of whenever we ran into one another, we'd pass the time by 'shooting the breeze' and perhaps having a coffee together. Sometimes he preferred a pint, so we'd find a bar and I would partake of a Coke (in a dirty glass - nothing soft about me), and we'd kill an hour or two in conversation.
The last time I saw Hugh, I treated him to a meal in a local eatery (update: also now demolished) and we reminisced about 'old times'. We'd only known each other for about seven years or so, so our shared recollections didn't reach back too far, but Hugh was a bookworm and always had something interesting to say. He was also a book rep, which meant he had a car, so when we'd finished our meal and had a gab, he deposited me at my house and said goodbye. "We'll do this again sometime," he said. "My treat."
A couple of months later (or so it seemed), I was reading the 'In Memoriam' column in my local paper and spied a familiar name. It was the first 'anniversary' of the death of someone's beloved son, and I was surprised to see that the name of the deceased was the same as Hugh's. Couldn't be him of course, as I'd last seen him only a couple of months back and the poor guy in the paper had been dead for a year.
However, as the day wore on, something gnawed at the back of my mind, and eventually I 'phoned a Glasgow shop which Hugh used to supply with books from time to time. A guy called Stevie answered and I asked if he knew the book rep named Hugh, and whether he'd seen him recently. "He's dead," he said. "Got hit by a bus around a year ago." Thanking him, I put down the 'phone and slowly let the confirmation of my nagging suspicion sink in.
That meant I'd last seen Hugh over a year before, despite it seeming far more recent than that. I could hardly believe it - he'd been resting in his grave (or his urn) for over twelve months while I, in my ignorance, still trotted about permissively, half-expecting to run into him at any time. Even after I learned of his death, I'd occasionally see someone in my local shopping centre and absent-mindedly think "Is that Hugh?", ready to call out to him before sadly remembering that he was no longer around.
Funny how quickly time passes, isn't it? It's now over thirty-three years since I learned Hugh had died, and it still only seems like a few months since we ate and talked and laughed together, and he dropped me off outside my house with the promise of "doing it again sometime". Sadly, for Hugh, that "sometime" never came - nor, in fact, for me either. But who knows? Maybe one day, perhaps - in another place, another time.
15 comments:
Nice photo Kid, I enjoy picking out the details on the moon, I find it totally fascinating and relaxing. A very heartfelt story, but also extremely sad. It must have been traumatic, hearing about your friend that way, due to the passage of time? 'RIP Huge.'
I don't know whether it was traumatic, AAW, though it was certainly sad. I still think of him from time-to-time and the period I knew him from. Thing is, as it still seems recent to me, it doesn't seem anywhere near as long as it is since I last saw him so sometimes it feels like he's still alive.
Well, it's like he's still around, in some way? You must have the ability to mentally slow down your perception of time, whilst life quickly rolls on? Maybe for fun, you should apply your skills, and design/draw your own Comic Hero Character, who can slow time to his advantage....would be interesting?
Just noticed, I typed 'RIP Huge', no disrespect intended! I mistyped 'RIP Hugh'. 'Whoops!'
I think it just depends from which end I approach a memory, AAW. If my mind jumps straight back to something it seems recent, but if I have to search for a memory it seems further away. I no longer have the energy, stamina, or even the desire to draw or letter comics now - or do much of anything in fact. (I noticed 'Huge', but decided to give you a pass on it.)
Fully understand Kid. I'll say goodnight to you then, I need my sleep!
I seem to need more sleep as days go by. Hopefully the 'Big Sleep' is still a long way off. Now there's a cheery note to end on.
Hi Kid, what a beautifully written story, but obviously it's not fiction. I was wondering if Hugh read this what would he think? I know you can't know, but your words made me think more deeply than usual. Thanks
Your comment of appreciation for my humble efforts are likewise appreciated, NB. It's always nice to know that something I've written on the blog was worthwhile. Thanks for letting me know. As for what Hugh would think of the post, maybe he'll tell me some day - in that 'another place, another time'.
I suppose this story just highlights the need to make the most of life and friends when you can as you never know what tomorrow brings. Like yourself I have several friends that I don't see regularly or make plans to meet up with etc. ( which I think happens more often as we get older). Some I haven't seen or heard of in a few years so your post has made me wonder if they are ok. Very sad news on Hugh though life can be cruel.
Not long ago, McS, I counted up the number of friends, acquaintances, old classmates, people I knew, etc., who are now dead, and it was a significant number - and (obviously) it doesn't include those who have died that I haven't yet learned about. Maybe it's better not to know as then, in a strange kind of way, they're still alive to me, still going about their day-to-day lives - even though, in reality, they're not.
For a moment I thought this was going to be a ghost story, Kid, as I thought you meant you'd read about Hugh dying a year earlier even though you'd last seen him only a couple of months earlier so you must have seen his ghost on that final occasion!
I notice that this post was originally published on Sunday, August 12th 2012 and by a strange coincidence that very date was on my mind only yesterday . I was listening to Desert Island Discs Revisited on BBC Radio 4-Extra yesterday afternoon which featured the sports presenter Claire Balding and the subject of the 2012 London Olympics came up. I remember that the opening ceremony was on Friday, July 27th 2012 which was the day before my mother would have turned 80 (she died aged 77 in 2009) so I worked out that the closing ceremony must have been on Sunday, August 12th, the same day that this post was originally published!
What happened to the anniversary post about The Titans #1? I assume you were too tired?
That sounds like a better story, CJ, shame it wasn't it. (How dare you suggest a better story, Knave?! I challenge you to a duel!) As for the closing Olympics ceremony being on that day, obviously everyone was watching it, which is why this post originally didn't get any comments.
As for the intended Titans post, I simply forgot, so I probably WAS too tired. Still not too late though, I can do a belated post.
I didn't discover Crivens until late 2013, Kid, so that's my excuse for not leaving a comment in August 2012.
What took you so long to discover the greatest blog in the history of everything, CJ? (In my warped mind anyway.)
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